Suspect your Wife of Cheating?
So you suspect your wife is cheating? Now what?
Not to worry, we are here to assist you. If you suspect your wife cheating start paying attention to her attitude, her sexual desires, how she dresses, and if she's texting someone unknown or hides her screen? Is she the type to normally hide her phone password or is she changing her password regularly yet having flirty text sessions?
If any of the above is true, DO NOT confront them. She will only get more creative and hide her actions. Even if you asked her if she was having an affair, she has to lie. Right? Why would she confess if you don't have any proof? "Oh Honey, your just being paranoid" Worse yet, they flip the script on you. "Why would you think that? YOU'RE the one who must be cheating!" (sound familiar?) We recently had a case in Bel Air. Sadly, the client called his wife out on the affair and told her exactly what he's been noticing. Guess what she did. She started texting through a special phone ap and all of the texts disappeared. She also started treating her husband and kids like shit and would just go out. It was impossible to catch her in the act as the client couldn't hold it together. We lost our window of opportunity. Certainly we can try again when things have settled but now you know she's learned from what her husband told her and will not drop her guard for at least a few weeks/months.
Cues of InfidelityCues of infidelity vary widely from relationship to relationship however, the warnings signs are there. Is she hiding her cell phone screen when she texts? Abruptly, not taking a call from an unknown number? Using WhatsApp to talk to friends? Not interested in having sex yet is newly obsessed with the upkeep of her looks? Watching what she eats or diets out of the ordinary? Seeking attention from others? Having more regular "girl nights out?"
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Why women cheat
Women cheat for a variety of reasons ranging from desire to procreate with a more attractive man. When women cheat, unlike men, they typically trade up. Where men often times just want to have sex. Women seem to tap into their primal urges during their cycle. It's guessed that subconsciously they want to have a more attractive child.
Revenge. Woman are more likely to have a revenge affair vs. men. However, women are less likely to have a one night stand. Luckily, what does this tell us? That when they do have an affair, it's a friend or someone equally close to them like a co-worker.
Lastly, a male predator. We've seen it on several occasions where a married woman was woed away from the relationship. These men know exactly what to say and won't let them go. If this is the case, it is recommended that we gather video proof and she seeks help from a good therapist.
How to catch a cheating spouse
With today’s technology and access, it can be difficult. However, play it close to the vest and pay attention. Make mental notes of the oddities you've noticed. Pay attention to the times of day for house wife’s or pay attention to the schedule for working professional. Are these abnormal actions taking place within a specific timeframe or a certain day? If so, we need to schedule surveillance and document their activities on videotape! Either way, we'll get you the truth! If she's having an affair, we'll document it. If she is working or just seeing the girlfriends, you can breath easier knowing the truth.
Perfect example of a cheating wife story. The client called us a week before the surveillance for a consultation. He had told us everything he noticed from her being cold to him, no sex for the last several months, and she recently grew more obsessed with her appearance but not for her husband’s sake. After discussing her schedule we thought the perfect time for surveillance would be when he was away and the grandparents were watching their child. We were correct. She dashed off for a work out to then leave the gym all dolled up. She drove to a nearby park and was observed on the phone with someone she clearly liked. Sadly, we knew the husband was not on that call. A brief moment later, she then quickly parked her car to where she thought was out of view and a large pick up truck arrived. She entered the truck and left they park for a more secluded area. They parked the truck off the side of an empty road in the shade and put the sun screens up. They thought no one could see them. The investigator was able to get all of that on video and more.... The client is happy, the grand parents are happy, and she can now deal with her lover’s children and his wife.
An ”A List Celebrity” and his wife.
He was much older and VERY wealthy man. However, he and his management suspected she was leaving the house a bit too often for unexplained errands. We followed her from Holmby Hills to the Peak of the Hollywood Hills. She pulled into what looked like a private drive (we later determined this was deliberate to shake a tail). The investigators went on foot and were able to locate her at a lovers hillside home. The investigators hiked around the hillside, set up camouflage and the camera on a tripod. The video tape we got was so graphic it would make a porn star blush. Needless to say, she vanished off of social media and her boy toy couldn’t book any more jobs. Now that the older gentleman has passed away, the two lovers are together. The two are trying their best to regain her status in Hollywood but it is unlikely as the older gentleman is what made them famous in the first place.
Notice these two stories are both about discovering oddities in the schedules, and setting up surveillance asap. They then got the proof they needed for them to make an informed decision.